Premature ejaculation happens when a man ejaculates too soon, perhaps during foreplay or at the beginning of penetration, so that no meaningful level of sexual satisfaction is reached by his partner. This leads to anxiety and stress on the man’s part, and resentment and dissatisfaction on the woman’s. In extreme cases, happy relationships can be ruined.
In the light of these, the importance of knowing how to get rid of premature ejaculation cannot be over-emphasized.
If you are having premature ejaculation problem, you should know that you are not alone. Approximately 50 % of all men experience premature ejaculation at one point or the other during their sexual lifetime, so there is nothing really to be embarrassed about.
The following steps would show you how to deal with the problem of premature ejaculation:
· Understand the causes. The popular statement, “a problem known is a problem half-solved,” is very much true here. You must understand that premature ejaculation is more of a psychological problem than it is physical. So don’t begin to panic, thinking perhaps, that there may be something seriously wrong with your penis or your health.
It is possible that you experience premature ejaculation because you’re involved in an intensely exciting sexual activity with your partner, so intense that you find it difficult to control when you ejaculate.
Also, it has been shown that men who regularly engage in masturbation are more likely to experience premature ejaculation than men who do not. And then, of course, premature ejaculation could also be loosely tied to the time interval between successive sexual intercourse. If you’re having sex, say twice a day, it is reasonable to think that you have a lower chance of ejaculating prematurely than a man having sex once in six months. The theory here is that the higher the sexual tension, the higher the excitement and consequently the more difficult it becomes to control ejaculation.
· Train your mind. If your premature ejaculation is due to one of the causes highlighted above, you can get rid of it by training yourself and building your endurance level. You must know when you become excited and try to curb it. You must be deliberate during sex, allowing yourself enjoy the whole experience and not just fixating your mind on the ejaculation itself. This is, of course, more difficult than it sounds, but with practice it is achievable.
· Train your body. The mind and the body are both equally important aspects of the sexual process. To get rid of premature ejaculation then, you must also train your body while you train your mind. This training of the body includes a variety of penile exercises that you can do to deal with early ejaculation.
A very practical one is Kegel’s exercise. This exercise is aimed at strengthening the muscles that control when an ejaculation would occur. Once this muscle is sufficiently strengthened, coupled with the endurance training you put your mind through, you would find that you’d begin to last longer during sex.
So, what exactly does this exercise entail?
Simply allow your urine to build up for a long time, so that you can barely hold it back. Then release it, stopping it midway, and then releasing it again. Without even physically urinating, you can still perform this exercise by assuming that you are and controlling the muscle accordingly.
· Use creams and pills. The market abound today with pills and creams aimed at helping people with premature ejaculation. It is quite difficult, at a glance, to know which pills and creams will actually help you get rid of premature ejaculation and which would not. Perhaps the safest thing to do is to go for those products that contain natural ingredients. They are most likely to be more effective than those synthesized wholly in the laboratory and importantly, they pose fewer side effects, if any.