In this “Cure Premature Ejaculation” series, I’m going to offer you a series of tips, facts, and techniques you can learn and implement to successfully cure premature ejaculation in a majority of cases, that is in all those situations where no major clinical conditions are present.
Premature ejaculation origin is yet unclear. Many researchers and therapists however firmly believe in the psychological nature of this issue. In order to figure out how to tackle this condition successfully, one needs to line up some basic facts about ejaculation mechanics.
Premature Ejaculation Mechanics
The mechanism of ejaculation is indeed quite complicated (as all processes in the human body); in an attempt to simplify matters, one can associate it with three distinct events taking place at the same time (well, actually, in close sequence):
- the prostate releases the semen (seminal emission),
- the semen is squeezed out of the prostate and penis (ejaculation),
- the bladder closes in order to avoid semen to reflow backwards into it (bladder neck closure).
For the sake of simplicity we can say that the male ejaculatory mechanism is brought up through two reflexes: the glans-vasal and urethromuscular. The former is responsible for bringing the semen to the posterior urethra (the seminal emission phase of ejaculation) while the latter, urethromuscular reflex, pumps it to the exterior (ejection phase of ejaculation).
The main muscle acting in the process of ejaculation is the bulbospongiosus: a paired, striated muscle at the base of the penis shaft. After the semen is flown into the bulbous urethra, the bulbocavernosus muscle contraction (BCM) squeezes the urethra and expels its contents.
Yes, I know, this could sound a bit too academic but keep this picture in mind as basically any unwanted behavior of your “sexual reflex” can be traced back to any or both of these two phases. For instance, once the emission phase is triggered, there is virtually no chance not to ejaculate shortly thereafter. This is why – if you don’t develop enough awareness on how aroused you are – even if you stop completely before climaxing, you are bound to climax shortly after you restart.
- Purpose of the (nearly ubiquitous) Squeeze Technique is to train the bulbocavernosus muscle to eliminate involuntary contractions that may cause the ejaculation with minimal sexual stimulation. This approach reported by Masters and Johnson can work quite well if the person willing to cure premature ejaculation can count on a cooperative and understanding partner. The premature ejaculation sufferer receives stimulation up to the point of imminent climax. Just before release, the partner squeezes the penis head – the glans – in its base; this action has the power to interrupt the ejaculation reflex. Once the sensation of impending ejaculation has subsided, one can restart the stimulation and repeat the process again. Gradually, with practice, a man can train his body to prolong his stimulation time/intensity until ejaculation. Although functional to cure premature ejaculation, this technique has a major drawback: the effect of the squeeze goes most often beyond merely attenuating the urge to blow and many report losing erection. This is for most men – especially psichologically – worse than premature ejaculation itself.
- Start&Stop technique. This involves sexual stimulation until the man perceives that he is about to climax. The stimulation is then ceased in order for the arousal to go down to more manageable levels. This two step technique can be reiterated until ejaculation is desired, the final time allowing the stimulation to continue until ejaculation occurs. Needless to say, this method also needs a highly cooperative partner in order to be successfully implemented to cure premature ejaculation.
- Most often premature ejaculation occurs because the body somehow can’t cope with certain levels of stimulation; a “brute force” approach is therefore to lessen the stimulation. For this purpose a number of creams are on the market that can partially anesthetize (numb) the penis and reduce the stimulation that leads to orgasm. Another option is to use a thicker or more condoms. However, it is quite logical that these techniques may negatively affect the pleasure of the sex act.
Now you know how your premature ejaculation is the result of a two-sided reflex taking place in your body as a consequence of stimulation. I gave you a couple of well-known techniques highlighting their workings in relation to premature ejaculation mechanics. To cure premature ejaculation, you basically have two choices:
- You train your body to withstand increasing levels of stimulation without your reflex kicking-in too early
- You decrease your sensitivity
There are newer techniques that work far better, more effectively and bring results faster than those I explained here. Please refer to the links in the Resource Box.
Until next Tip!